“NO! I WANT Mommy to get it!” or “Here, Mommy! No, Daddy, I said MOMMY!” Yep, that’s my almost 3-year-old. It’s a tunnel-vision request that must happen the way he has asked for it. For example, we could be in the car and he wants to hand me something. I would be the one driving at the moment and can’t reach him, so the obvious choice would be for Daddy to reach back and grab what he was trying to hand me. Oh, no! That’s not what he wanted. He didn’t want his Daddy to touch his things. Mommy had to grab it and that was it. I try telling him that I’m driving and can’t reach him, but he doesn’t care. He proceeds to throw a fit and starts kicking the back of my seat … until I can reach back and take what he’s been trying to hand me. Then the fit stops and he’s happy.
Now, it’s not Mommy-do-it all the time, he switches back and forth between who he wants to help him. Sometimes it results in more fit throwing with plumping himself onto the floor. Silly, I know. Sometimes I have to turn around so he can’t see me smile as I think it’s quite hysterical.
I don’t like seeing him act like this. At first I didn’t know how to handle this sort of situation. The it’s gotta be what I want and that’s it … kind of thing. So, slowly we started asking his big sister to help him do some things, way before he even thinks that he would need help. We tell her, she’s 6, that he’s learning and this is a great way for her to act like a teacher and help him learn how to do things. This started working out perfectly! She would go up to him and ask him if he would like help doing something or she’ll say, “Let me show you how to do …” He listens very intently to her and seems to enjoy his brother-sister time.
Since we’ve been doing that, these little tunnel-vision requests have slowly lessened … not totally gone, but there are less of those situations. It’s a weird behavior that I hope we can stop from happening … and soon.