The more involved YOU are in your child’s education, the more involved he might be.
Sure, engaging learners is the responsibility of your child’s teachers, but it’s also up to you to keep that engagement going at home. Meanwhile, when kids get home from school, they want to play for awhile without academics. So, you have to have a plan to keep the learning going. We’ve got a plan for you: Follow these four simple guidelines, stay upbeat and watch the magic that occurs as you go through the school year.
Share to prepare.
Let your kids know what you enjoyed about school and tell them your “stories” about it. However, if you had a difficult time in school, share those accounts with someone who’s not your child. Talk to another adult about the ways you struggled, and how those struggles might color your expectations of what school will be like for your child. Get your fears and biases about school off your chest and let them go so you won’t unwittingly pass them on. Remember, your child’s not you. That was then, this is now.
Some parents have trouble trusting that a school will care about their child as much as they do. And it’s true — teachers won’t treat your child like a parent will. They’ll probably expect more. And they’ll care about your child as educational professionals who want to challenge your child so he can realize his potential. So, let them do their jobs. School’s not only about academics. When your child’s in school, he’s learning how to socialize and enjoy others. He’s learning how to express himself through art, music and physical activity. So take a leap of faith. Remind yourself that the folks who run schools are trained professionals. Trust them with your child’s daily education and well-being. Then your child will experience every day as an adventure in learning and growing. Send positive messages to your kids about what you know regarding their teachers and classes.
Be positive and proactive.
Try to find something to like about your school on a regular basis. If you don’t know what to like, then you might not be aware enough. Introduce yourself to teachers, go to your school’s functions, meet the folks who work in the front office and reach out to your principal. All of these things will create a trust circle for your child. Make sure the teacher knows you’re on her team. If you have a miscommunication or misunderstanding with a teacher or administrator, strive to work things out in a calm, proactive manner. Don’t hang on to negative perceptions or try to create negative consensus with other parents. Confident, secure parents seek solutions, not squabbles. Put yourself in the teacher or administrator’s shoes before you pick up the phone or shoot off that e-mail. Remember, the way you would like to be treated is the way to behave, always, no matter how you feel in the heat of the moment.
Give without strings.
Whether you work full time or not, there are basically two types of parent volunteers: those who willingly pitch in and help and those who don’t want to spend time at school but do it for their kids. Be honest about the kind of parent you are, so you can find ways to be a cheerful contributor to the school.
If you like to pitch in, join the PTA or sign up to be a room parent. You’ll find plenty of opportunities to contribute, but do so without expectations of payoffs for your child based on your involvement. The benefits for your child come when you happily contribute, not when you use your position as an insider to create an ongoing list of how you would do things differently and better. Remember your role as a helper in the larger scheme of things. Be service minded, looking for opportunities to match the school’s needs with what you have to offer. Do your best not to criticize parents who are less committed to volunteering than you, unless you wish to be judged right back.
If you don’t want to spend a lot of time at school, acknowledge that your child could benefit from seeing you at school once in a while whether you enjoy volunteering or not. Break the school year up into three parts and try to pitch in to help or chaperone at least once each season. Don’t forget to get your spouse involved. Two reasonably involved parents are better than none. And don’t feel guilty about not being a parenting association volunteer. There are plenty of ways to contribute that don’t funnel through the parent teacher associations. Give money to financially support your school’s programs, if you can swing it, and go to your child’s teacher when looking for ways to contribute in proximity to your child.
No matter how you choose to contribute, when you give the way you want to give, you set a great example for your kids. Parents who invest energy cheerfully and proactively in their child’s school stand out in the crowd for all the right reasons, paving the way to success in school for all their children.
Year-long Teacher Appreciation Ideas
Pay attention to teacher-appreciation activities and try to celebrate your teacher all year long. If you wait until school’s end to say, “Thanks,” consider stepping up sooner. In fact, why not express teacher appreciation on an ongoing basis? Catch a teacher or administrator doing something right and express your appreciation with a quick thank-you note. Here is a list of inexpensive gifts that make a nice gesture any time of year:
- A pair of movie tickets
- A small bouquet of flowers
- Gift card to an art supply store
- Something for her sweet tooth
- A potted perennial
- Restaurant gift certificates
- Bath salts or bubbles
- Gift card to a bookstore
- Your best cookie recipe with the cookies
- An iTunes card
- Water bottle or travel mug
- A pot of assorted herbs
- Office supply gift card
- Gourmet food basket
- Coffee or tea shop gift card